The little secrets of collaboration: When empathy finally flips ‘Me’ over to ‘We’


Collaboration often starts off from a place where a collection of relatively self-centred individuals decide to work together. The self-centredness is not a problem per se, it’s a fact. Though I was recently reminded in a Blink about ‘Ego is the enemy‘ that one can be unreasonably self-centred too but that’s a digression). In any […]

The little secrets of collaboration: The opaque, empathetic, talking-listening balancing act


As I continue with this mini series on the secrets of collaboration, an important angle dawns on me: Among collaborators, where is the sweet spot between talking vs. listening? And I mean: how do we each balance it out in order to truly be in a genuinely collaborative approach? Of course this is a silly […]

What really is the value of feedback?


Happy new year everyone! I hope 2019 brings you health and well-being, happiness, peace, fun, inspiration and success! I also hope it brings you and us all lots of opportunities to get better at feedback. Both giving and receiving it. When I developed my motto ‘fun, focus and feedback‘, I didn’t expect that this third […]

Do we *need* to disagree? Or rather acknowledge our different perspectives?


The thirst for new ideas is a beautiful thing! In the process of unearthing new ideas, though, we sometimes lose the plot a bit. One of the (relatively) recent sources of innovations is to look into failures and celebrating failures through failure fairs and the likes etc. Great idea indeed if you pitch this well […]

Use a precise language for precise results


Language is a challenging issue. People have different relations to it and different abilities. From which it results that, we more often than not, not quite understand each other the way each person talking is hoping to get understood. Which is why, by the way, paraphrasing is a good idea for today and every day. […]

Be genuine and genuinely care for your neighbour’s pace on the way to change


A lot of conversations, in general and also on this blog, are exploring past reflections and previous conversations. I am in one of these iterations about Alignment and authenticity. I’ve said before that -for me- authenticity is essential in what we do, when we engage with others, because that genuine approach shows the real us and […]

Great and poor metaphors for knowledge, learning and change


Metaphors are great. They reach out to the artist in us. They tell us stories – not just plain facts. They are, like modelling tools, great props to visualise the future. But, like modelling, they’re only helpful to an extent – and perhaps their ultimate motive is to be proven wrong. Like a stick that […]

Getting to ‘wow’ with public speaking and presenting


My current work environment is academic. Which means people around me produce a hell of a lot of information. And presentations. I would have thought their presenting and public speaking skills were very good, considering… uh uh… not quite the case. And there are many reasons for that. But I guess many people around me are […]

‘Open’ as default, not the exception – oh, and please get over your self importance ;)


Openness is a scary thing indeed. Opening yourself is really difficult, letting go all the more so (oh, read this beautiful testimony about it). And even opening your information to others seems to intimidate people more than is necessary… Many people I work with or come across have difficulties operating in ‘open spaces’ – and […]

Moving conversations up the trust ladder… and scale of influence


At the end of the day, as some would say (‘KM is about increasing the quality and frequency of conversations that get your job done’), in KM it’s all about conversations. Conversations of contact-making (contextual webs) Conversations of meaning-making Conversations of joint exploration Conversations of co-creation (in events and otherwise) Conversations of trust building Conversations of […]