All hail grit power (= determination + discipline)!


One of the most famous pieces of behavioral research ever conducted is the ‘Stanford marshmallow experiment‘  What this shows? The power of discipline. And determination. Grit! Having an eye on the long game rather than instant gratification…  That’s one of the things I’m teaching my kids. Intelligence sure helps, but when it comes to succeeding […]

Ramping up my/our emotional literacy (online)?


That’s it, we’ve started that amazing slow-thinking and triple loop journey to make sense of this incredible transition and challenge that we are facing. We had our first session last Monday and it was intense. Because this transition journey is intense… Really intense… Not least emotionally. We are grappling with all kinds of signals and […]

Slow thinking and triple loop learning for our high-paced online metamorphosis


In her preface to a great series of posts on moving online in pandemic, our iconic and highly inspirational friend Nancy White made this revealing statement: In typical Nancy fashion I jumped into action, started up an email list, opened a Google Doc to share resources, responded to individual requests for help. Boing, boom, zip, […]

When ‘going online’ invites us to rethink (also face-to-face) interactions – A new dawn for collaboration?


Originally posted on agilefacil:
How do you approach the world, and life? You likely tend to consider that things are either ‘half full’ or ‘half empty’. I personally always adopted the half full glass, as a guarantee for an easier life. A new dawn of collaboration through a double-lens perspective (photo credit: Eleonora Albasi /…

Criticisms and cures around ‘facilitated collaboration’


The ever inspiring Nancy White just wrote a great post about criticisms and cures about Liberating Structures (LS). Together with LS festival partner in crime Nadia von Holzen we are actually planning to have an online conversation with Nancy on this topic, but Nancy’s post is already so rich that I can’t resist the temptation […]

The little secrets of collaboration: When empathy finally flips ‘Me’ over to ‘We’


Collaboration often starts off from a place where a collection of relatively self-centred individuals decide to work together. The self-centredness is not a problem per se, it’s a fact. Though I was recently reminded in a Blink about ‘Ego is the enemy‘ that one can be unreasonably self-centred too but that’s a digression). In any […]

The little secrets of collaboration: The opaque, empathetic, talking-listening balancing act


As I continue with this mini series on the secrets of collaboration, an important angle dawns on me: Among collaborators, where is the sweet spot between talking vs. listening? And I mean: how do we each balance it out in order to truly be in a genuinely collaborative approach? Of course this is a silly […]

The little secrets of collaboration: Assume good intent


My former employer’s Director General used to say, almost ad nauseam: ‘always assume good intent’ At some point, it kind of became formulaic. No one seemed to be listening to that particular message of his any more. And the gossips and rumours went on as they always do – and indeed always did. But the […]

The little secrets of collaboration: How you make me feel


There are people that use quotes for just about anything. It becomes a language in and of itself, and it then often feels like a dysfunctional marketing discourse, devoid of any meaning that was contained in the quotes originally. Yet a good quote is worth a lot. It’s like a picture but in words – […]

What really is the value of feedback?


Happy new year everyone! I hope 2019 brings you health and well-being, happiness, peace, fun, inspiration and success! I also hope it brings you and us all lots of opportunities to get better at feedback. Both giving and receiving it. When I developed my motto ‘fun, focus and feedback‘, I didn’t expect that this third […]